Relationship Transformation: Back to basics.

Our desire and need to connect with people on a deep emotional level is built into us as human beings. If handled properly and correctly relationships can be the most beautiful and fulfilling dimension of life. If handled ineffectively and if it is abused, then it is the place of extreme pain and suffering. If your intimate relationships are in a downward spiral then it is time that you make a relationship transformation by turning the downward spiral up. You can do that by just realizing some basic principles of relationship.

Relationship transformation is not a "quick fix" but installing and adapting habits that allow us to expand and grow in ourselves and in our relationship. What will change instantaneously is you expectation of the relationship and that changes right now by you making a decision that,  if you are committed to that relationship, you will start to love unconditionally. It is not what you do once in a while that creates an extraordinary relationship, but the things you do every day.

The only way a relationship can ever be extraordinary, is if both people and the relationship continuously grow and expand. There is a law of life that is true for every living being: everything in life must grow and expand. This is true for every living thing. You either grow or you die - there is no fixed time when everything is static and "sorted". If you want to transform your relationships start to make "deposits" into your "emotional bank account" everyday in everyway. Remember that a relationship is a place where you go to GIVE and not a place where you go to GET something.

Relationships create a synergy between two people and it is in this synergy where the real joy and pleasure of relationships lie. It is because of this synergy that we just can't get enough of it; that we have that need for love and connection.  Relationship transformation happens when you realize that unconditional giving is the best investment you can possibly make in experiencing this synergy.

The challenge is that so many people go to relationships to get something; to "make themselves complete". You are complete and the way to experience it is to give your partner unconditional love. In the giving you will realize that all you need is with you and within you. What you really want from a relationship is to experience the synergy and electricity that is created when two people are together in love.

To initialize relationship transformation you should realize that the real purpose of a relationship is to enhance and to magnify the experience of life. Laughing alone is fun, but laughing with a group of people creates an effect on everybody that enhances the experience of laughter. In intimate relationships this is even stronger because deep and strong emotions are involved and sharing. We have all experienced that deep sense of connection by sharing our deepest emotions with someone we love. The joy was in sharing it and not in keeping it locked up inside.

Remember that relationships are a way of relating to someone. In a relationship you actually experience yourself through someone else. You can know yourself to be a loving person but until you do something loving it remains an idea. As soon as you actually do something it becomes real. Intimate relationships are so exiting for the very reason that we have the opportunity to relate to just one special person in a very special way. With just one person we get to experience some of our deepest and most intimate emotions and feelings.

Relationships are the spice of life. Nurture and care for it and above all GIVE more than you take. Relationship transformation starts with knowing that relationships are there to make life better and more enjoyable. Seek and capture that synergy and magnify your experience of yourself and your life.

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"Grief can take care of itself, but to get the full value
of joy you must have someone to share it with." 
- MARK TWAIN

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